Being a new parent is hard. You’re learning a new way of life, whether it’s your first child or not, life is different. As you figure this out, you are still doing all of the parent things and are completely exhausted. Everyone offers help, but nobody really knows how to help or what to offer.
I went to moms and asked them, “What’s the best thing you could have had after the baby?”. The answers were quite simple, help. It doesn’t take much to make us happy, a small gesture is huge for new parents and something we won’t soon forget.
So, if you’re a new parent, becoming a parent, or know of someone- this small (but amazingly huge) gestures are what is truly wanted!
Bring a meal. This could be you cooking a meal and dropping it off, delivering a gift card for a favorite restaurant, or even just dropping off a pizza. With so much going on, a meal that we don’t have to plan, go to the store for, cook, clean up after, etc – HEAVEN!
Offer to swing by (planned, of course!) to watch the baby so they can shower. Again, we get so caught up in this new life that something as small as a shower alone would be so amazing! (Maybe bring a dinner with you, too! You may just turn into their favorite person ever!).
Almost the same as above, but for a nap. New parents need sleep, that’s all there is to it. Babies aren’t on anyone’s schedule but their own.
Help them clean without judgement. They’re already hard on themselves, overwhelmed, and did I mention tired? Just offer a helping hand. Clean and allow them to spend some quality time with their baby.
Don’t underestimate a phone call. Check on them, see how they’re doing, show you care and be genuine. When you ask what you can do, mean it. If they say nothing, any of the above is perfect. Some people won’t ask for help, no matter what. Be the friend that is there for them, even when it may seem they don’t need it.